Get off my case!

[adric]

I'm young still, and am finally managing to hold down a job AND have some fun with my friends. I deeply resent anyones' attempts to place responsibilities on me that I did not choose and that are not mine. (*gently shoves cat away from keyboard throughout typing this post*)

I missed my idiot brother's accidental daughter first birthday party noon Saturday. Although I received a cute Pooh invitation I had not rsvp'd nor had I planned to go before he called last week and asked me to come. Gah. So, Fri night before bed I mentioned it, and the tentative plan was in place. Not that I'd gotten a card or a gift or anything..

And Saturday morning stuff happened, as it tends to. At 12:30 when I was upright and could open my laptop I replied to the directions mail that I wasn't going to be able to make it, that if I left right that instant I'd barely get there before 2 (the closing time of the party).
I deliberately did not call, as I did not have any useful response to the hurt feelings that may have been generated. Similarly I'm not caling him back today...

So, more calls yesterday and today. I called my Dad back to make sure there wasn't something of actual import going on, and he merely delivered guilt about me not being there, saying it was 'important'.

WTF ever. F-ing relatives (and I actually do okay with my mom and dad). Did I ask everyone I'm kin to to come over for tea the last couple times I got fired, failed out of school, or had a messy breakup? Why do I get shit for not wanting to help validate his massive errors in judgment?

And how tf am I supposed to help them raise their child, take on some of the responsibility for their stupid, when I've got plenty of my own AND people in my family with children (and some sense about them) to look out for?

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Re: This is why I try really hard to never read live jornals!

[adric]

Wow.

How's your back?

Re: This is why I try really hard to never read live jornals!

[adric]

Previous comment (started with "You are an asshole!") is screened for various reasons, including unasked-for disclosure of others personal information.

And while discussion of my confusion about the nature and utility of family is on-topic here, I don't think there is anything of interest that isn't covered elsewhere in this thread.

Threats to 'disclose' the content of this ranty public post to .. my brother (he's on my FL, but does not use LJ last I heard) or my mom (she's read my LJ before) are .. just f-ing stupid.

Really, you started off on the right track, but the ad hominems, personal information, and *mrrr?* blackmail attempts (wtf?) totally overwhelmed any good point you may have had.

So, returning to our topic: I may in fact be an asshole for not telling my brother what a dumbass he is and how little I want to do with his mistake. I just feel that staying out of it is a better strategy.

And in partial conclusion, as noted by femme above, my error was in being wishy-washy and agreeing to show up (whn I'd not previously intended to) and then not making it.

Re: This is why I try really hard to never read live jornals!

[yankeefrog.livejournal.com]

Hey man, what can I say, at least your honest with me, and yes, I can come off as "blackmaily" but, when I am pissed I tend to rant...it's probably the meds...I just wish you would be up front with your brother rather than making this an odd sort of one sided rant war, that continues to leave him in the dark...
M.A.D.
P.S.
My back sucks and will soon be having my entire Lumbar region fused together....

Re: This is why I try really hard to never read live jornals!

[adric]

Sorry you're still having trouble with your back.

And, you're right. I'm just still angry that he didn't consult with any of the rest of us before following through on this course of action.

And yeah, my rents are grandkid crazy (again, more). Le sigh.